Along with advice from a mother-in-law, financial planner, and other brides-to-be sages, I was invited to provide some words of wisdom in Modern Luxury’s San Francisco Brides Magazine. What would YOUR advice be?
Myths: 1. Expressing an emotion will deplete it and get rid of it. This is one of the biggest myths about emotions and it’s touted by many mental health professionals. Many therapists encourage their clients to express their emotions as an end in itself, as if clients can empty themselves of the emotion like emptying […]
“Don’t be so judgmental.” You hear it all the time, maybe from some people you know. Many times it’s used as a weapon to disarm you and keep you from expressing an opinion. Other times, it’s used to make you feel guilty for holding an opinion the other person doesn’t agree with. It can be […]
You’re feeling extremely angry, sad, anxious, or excited. You know these are emotions, but do you know what causes them? To most people, emotions are a mystery, or at best, confusing. When I ask my clients what emotions are and where they come from, they usually give me a blank stare, and then say something […]
In this final article of my series, I address two more reader’s comments that raise questions about the ethical responsibilities of mental health (and medical) professionals with regards to AA. The reader’s comments are shown in italics and quotes, and my response follows. Comment 1: “I am hoping, as a medical provider and therapist, that […]
This is a continuation of parts one, two, and three, of a series of articles critiquing Alcoholics Anonymous and the 12-Step model. Step Ten: Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it. This positive step continues from previous steps by encouraging personal responsibility, honesty, and taking action when necessary. Step Eleven: Sought through […]
In my previous article, I provided a critique of steps 1-3 of AA’s Twelve-Step Model. In part two, I continue with my critique, focusing on Steps 4-6. At the end of this article I provide the first (of several) alternative approaches to recovery from a drinking or other substance abuse problem. These approaches differ from AA’s […]
1. Create a written list of things you like about yourself, both physical (e.g., eyes, hair, etc.) and non-physical (e.g., honest, dedicated, productive, etc.), and read the list everyday. 2. If you have non-physical characteristics you don’t like (e.g., dishonest, unreliable), commit to changing or improving them. 3. Take a closer look at nature (a […]