When you hear the word “selfishness” what comes to mind? Things like: only thinking of yourself, lying, cheating, stealing, or doing whatever you feel like? Do you think anything positive? For most, the answer is a resounding “No.” But, are lying, cheating, etc. really selfish, i.e., in your rational and long-term self-interest? If not, what […]
Your palms sweat, your heart races, and you feel like you’re about to explode in a fit of panic. No, you’re not being chased by a hungry bear – although it sure feels that way. You’re experiencing test anxiety.
Group therapy can be an excellent alternative or supplement to individual therapy. Throughout San Francisco and Marin, you can find many groups for different issues, including eating disorders, anxiety, depression, grief, relationships, and more. In this post, I describe the advantages of group therapy, as well as ways to locate groups in the San Francisco […]
Finding a good therapist in Marin, San Francisco, or beyond can be challenging and overwhelming. Where do you look and how do you choose amongst the numerous psychologists, counselors, marriage and family therapists, social workers, and others who provide psychotherapy services? Here are some tips and suggestions on finding an appropriate and qualified therapist for […]
Self-esteem is an absolutely necessary requirement for mental health and happiness. Without it, we literally couldn’t survive. But what is self-esteem, and why is it so vital to our lives? Self-esteem has two components: self-confidence and self-respect. Self-confidence means having the conviction that you’re capable of handling life and being successful. It means having […]
Most people come to therapy to address something in their life that isn’t going well, such as depression, anxiety, or a relationship problem. Psychotherapy is mainly focused on resolving problems or overcoming a psychological issue that is getting in the way of your functioning and enjoyment of life. But, the elimination of a problem doesn’t […]
Along with advice from a mother-in-law, financial planner, and other brides-to-be sages, I was invited to provide some words of wisdom in Modern Luxury’s San Francisco Brides Magazine. What would YOUR advice be?
In part one of this post, I provided five myths about emotions. In this post, I present five truths. Truths: 1. Emotions are our fuel. Without emotions, we wouldn’t have motivation to do anything. This is hard to imagine, as you have always had them. Emotions provide the fuel to go after our goals […]
Myths: 1. Expressing an emotion will deplete it and get rid of it. This is one of the biggest myths about emotions and it’s touted by many mental health professionals. Many therapists encourage their clients to express their emotions as an end in itself, as if clients can empty themselves of the emotion like emptying […]
If there’s one essential element to achieving and maintaining mental health, it’s the consistent use of reason. When people think of reason, they usually think of someone detached from his emotions, cold like a computer, like Spock from Star Trek. But, using reason doesn’t mean repressing one’s emotions, but rather understanding your emotions and making […]